Most people had the same reason for cheating on their partners — and their answer should scare you

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  • Relationships can be tough and one of the hardest
    things a couple can go through is infidelity.
  • Why do people cheat? There’s a lot of confusion behind
    the heartbreak and so many questions about what changed or what
    could have been.
  • A study sought to answer why exactly people cheat and
    the most common answer is “lack of love.” 



, there’s always a risk of heartbreak.
Seriously, love is a battlefield, to quote Pat Benatar,


can be a roller coaster of emotions. Even if
you’ve found

the one

or you’re ready to walk

down the aisle

, that doesn’t mean that relationships are
easy or that you’re guaranteed to stay together.

One of the most painful dating
experiences is being



Trusting someone

and then being taken advantage of is not only
unfair and


, it’s also confusing.



study is hoping to explain some of the
confusion and answer the questions behind cheating.

In a study of 495 adults,
originally published in “The Journal of Sex Research,” 77% of
participants reported that they’d cheated due to a “lack of

This means that the largest
number of people had cheated simply because they’d fallen out of
love with their significant other, which is a pretty
heartbreaking revelation. There are so many other ways to honor
and explore these feelings and the relationship, no matter which
stage it’s in, and without nearly as much heartbreak.

Another 70% said that they’d
cheated due to feeling neglected, while 70% of others said that
cheating had happened while they were drunk.

Some said they cheated out of anger and others said they
were hoping to quell a low self-esteem.

These findings echo

previous research

, that found that women in both the United
States and Europe had cheated because they felt that their
partner had stopped giving them the attention they needed.
Conversely, when people who identified as men were asked the same
question, however, they said that the top reason they cheated was
that the person they cheated with was attractive.

Here’s the thing: even if you’ve
been privy to the

warning signs

and discovered someone cheating, going
through the subsequent pain that follows betrayal, it doesn’t
have to be all bad. No matter why your partner cheated, there are
ways that you can

move forward


In the end, cheating hurts, but
it can also be a

good thing

. It can be a sign to separate from your
partner and move on with someone else who will value you or it
can mean that it’s time to evaluate your roles in your
relationship and grow with one another. You might just be

better off


Dating can be a lot. It’s risky.
It can mean arguing, laughing, cheating, and even growing despite
the heartbreak. It could mean being with the wrong person or
finding someone who’s totally right for you. No matter what, it’s
good to communicate, to remain open, and to be aware of each
other’s feelings. It might just save everyone the heartbreak of

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